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48 I Don't Want to Lose Contact with You

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Life#

I Miss You Guys#

During the 22nd Spring Festival, due to the outbreak of the epidemic in Hebei, I couldn't go back to my hometown. As a result, I spent a different kind of Spring Festival with a group of friends in Beihai.

• I stayed at Guo's house before the festival. With his amazing memory, he took me around his elementary school, middle school, and university. We also passed by and visited my high school homeroom teacher and his high school friend's house. We walked a long way and talked for a long time, and of course, there was also a magical picking garden!
• I stayed at Xiao P's house again. I wanted to walk along the beach to the end, but ended up being blown away 😶; I experienced celebrating the Spring Festival in the south, and it felt quite simplified.
• Our group got together again, ice skating, karaoke, eating, and setting off fireworks. I'm glad that everyone is still so passionate and crazy together 💃!
• I met the person I wanted to see, although the process was a bit awkward, but I'm still happy 😊.
• I'm really lucky. I was supposed to go back to work feeling lonely and a bit desolate, but on the return trip, I met Leng Yimian, what a joy!

Slowly Realizing I'm an Emo Person#

After the Spring Festival, when I returned to Guangzhou and became alone again, I had more free time. In addition, the holiday plans I had made in advance basically fell through. I became restless and worried. Perhaps it's true that without hope, there won't be disappointment. I gave up fantasies and unrealistic expectations, ran and sweated like crazy, ate ice cream in big mouthfuls, but I still felt a sense of powerlessness. If I continue like this, I will become depressed. I can't avoid it anymore. Being hurt and hurting myself is also an interesting experience. Let's face it with this mindset for now.

Captures#

Two Blog Articles#

• "R Package | gt: Creating Colorful Tables in R"
  On April 1st, I saw this YouTube video and learned about this table processing package for the first time. After some understanding, I gradually applauded the author's ideas and solutions!

  

  Using a set of simple and easy-to-use gt functions to easily break down traditional R tables into small components and beautify them, and finally concatenate them to output colorful Greater Tables! What a natural and orderly idea, what a simple and well-organized implementation. I couldn't help but write a blog post to record it.

• "Data Warehouse | SQL Tips"
  After subscribing to the Medium Weekly, I discovered many great articles. One important series that is recommended in almost every newsletter is about SQL. After browsing through them, I realized that compared to programming languages like Python and R, SQL syntax is simple, but mastering it requires some tricks. The tips and perspectives mentioned, such as "CET," are very novel to me, like a revelation, and they are crucial additions to SQL Adventure.

Insights#

About Friends#

Recently, two tweets from @塔塔 about friends struck a chord with me:

• The first one is about maintaining friendships

Thank you to all the friends who take the initiative to contact me. I'm really not proactive enough.

As we grow up, we gradually realize that our friends from before are no longer the children living on the same campus. We live in different places and gradually lose touch. Sometimes when we miss each other, we don't know where to start. At that moment, we realize that expressing emotions is a very important ability, and language can provide rich emotional value. Every time I hear a friend's proactive and complimentary words, I am stunned at first, and then I'm overwhelmed with gratitude. I want to give a good response, but I don't know how to express it. I'm still contemplating what attitude I should express.

🙏 I hope that one day I can also express myself openly. No matter it's friendship or love, I want to play games or meet up when you're free. I miss you, I like you, and chatting with you makes me happy. I want to say all these things!

• The second one is about the loss of friendship

When a friend leaves, it's like taking away a part of your spirit.

Sometimes I feel that in all these years, the most meaningful things are the moments spent with friends. The longer the memories, the deeper the feelings. I also deeply feel the preciousness and rarity of true friends. So the departure of any friend becomes even more unbearable.

This reminds me of a sermon by the 17th-century poet John Donne, "For Whom the Bell Tolls":

No man is an island,
Entire of itself.
Each is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main.
If a clod be washed away by the sea,
Europe is the less.
As well as if a promontory were.
As well as if a manor of thy friend's
Or of thine own were:
Any man's death diminishes me,
Because I am involved in mankind.
And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls;
It tolls for thee.
—John Donne, "For Whom the Bell Tolls"

About Myself#

Throughout life, we stand in the present, look back at the past, and look forward to the future.

The past leaves many imprints on us, and recalling them at different times and in different moods brings different feelings:

@misa 老师 🐑: I had a dream, and the content of the dream was all about the past me. Actually, I don't dislike that past me. It's just that after a certain period of time, I can never go back to that feeling. It's quite emotional.

@塔塔: I ran and remembered that I used to run in high school. After evening self-study, I would go for a run. I thought that if I could finish this run, I could do other things that require perseverance. At that time, I didn't really like running. It was more about finding proof in the cycle of high school where hope couldn't be seen, proving that I could persevere.

When we think about the present, most of the time we feel lost, but deep down, we have a firm belief that supports us:

@变态小马 哒哒哒: I'm a little unhappy, but there's no place to vent. After a long time, I gradually forget how to express myself. If I really have to express something, maybe after thinking for a long time, I can only blurt out one sentence, "I'm unhappy." I don't know when, but even my emotional ups and downs feel like a drain. I'm becoming unable to get angry, unable to argue, easily giving up, and I feel like disappearing.

@Mier1728: I don't know anything, but I'm willing to learn. I have so many doubts about what's happening around me and about people in general. Different people have different coping mechanisms for their doubts. For me, no matter if it's anger or fear, there's always a vivid question mark in my heart. No matter what environment I'm in, understanding the facts always makes me feel at ease. This feeling is like taking off the jade pendant I wear and feeling the residual warmth and calming coolness in my hand.

As for the future, its charm may lie in its unknown nature. Most things are beyond our control. Faced with the unknown and uncontrollable, the best strategy is to focus on the present, and perhaps what we can do every day is quite simple and clear:

@周周: "Clear love, direct dislike, sincere liking. Stand under the sun with confidence, and praise yourself loudly without shame."

Although the future is still unknown, choosing to feel and believe in ourselves, enjoying the process of exploration, and believing that understanding ourselves is the most important thing, the results may no longer be so frightening, right?

Reflections#

My Information Processing Flow#

After joining evening exercise, my evenings have become busier. At the same time, during this Qingming holiday, various types of information, such as Twitter, newsletters, Bilibili, YouTube, and podcasts, have flooded in. The consumption of these fragmented information has taken up a lot of my time. Although there is no lack of great new knowledge, the scattered and addictive nature of the input has given me the pleasure of gaining new knowledge, but it has also squeezed the time and space for me to solidify and consolidate systematic knowledge.

Therefore, it is necessary to combine the commonly used information channels with my current experience, processing methods, and tool combinations to establish a reasonable and natural information processing flow, making it regularized browsing time, efficient browsing methods, and immediate follow-up processing.

• Twitter, Telegram
  • Browse during the daily commute to work, without affecting evening sleep
  • Use IFTTT to automatically push liked content to a self-built TeleChannel
  • Use Todo or tag in Logseq for low-pressure journaling
• Bilibili, YouTube
  • Abandon B and choose Y, treat YouTube as a learning channel, and practice English
  • Make full use of the good integration between YouTube, IFTTT, and Logseq
  • Create and use Y2B templates in Logseq to record learning notes
• Newsletters, RSS
  • Check and process them uniformly on Friday evenings, separating work and exploration
  • Use Zotero to archive web pages, with Logseq integration
  • Organize and output Journals, Weekly, and Articles
• Music, Podcast
  • Listen during the daily commute and while cooking in the evening, listen to podcasts while running
  • I'm not very musically inclined, so I'll just enjoy the music without demanding too much
  • Pick a favorite episode each month as the background music for my weekly report